Bar-Loose - Insatiable Women

Artful Strategies and Skillful Flirtations for Insatiable Females, 3rd. Expanded Revision.
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Warning: This book is for mature readers only over the legal age of 18 in the U.S.A or of legal age as stipulated by the laws of any other country. The book you are about to read contains sexually explicit language and it does stereotype certain individuals for reasons of safety. Whether we like it or not. stereotyping and profiling are facts of life in many situations. Nothing said in his book should be construed or considered discrimination against race, creed, color, age, gender, religious beliefs, sexual orientation or anyone else in general or in particular.

INDEX

Preface

Introduction

Bibliography

Testimonials

I. The Black Widow

II. The Checklist

III. The Tricks of the Trade

IV. The Conversation

V. Overcoming Shyness (includes "pole dancing tips" section)

VI. Defining Sex and Sexual Behavior

VII. The Rules of the Game

VIII. Fucking Safely

IX. The Danger Zone

IX-a. How to Spot Borderline Criminals. Personality Disorders

X. The Business Aspect

XI. The Fetishes

XII. General Information

XIII. Spanish Words

XIV. Practice Exercise

Make-Up Guide and Expert Advise

Videos, How to apply make-up and more (Printer Friendly Version does not include How-to Videos)

Appendix I. A Guide For Hot Mature Ladies: Defining Cougars

Appendix II. Another type of Cougars: A Guide For All Hot Mature Ladies seeking younger cubs

Appendix Pictures. Cougars on the Prowl: Pictures

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PERSONAL GUIDE: PREFACE

This book is about personal strategies for all women, females, “sexual thrill seekers” or anyone of adult age with an intimate disposition for an active sex life and/or those looking to fulfill strong needs of irrepressible lust for sexual satisfaction. Women who are not particularly satisfied with their average attractiveness or lack of it, and those who worry about their mature age will benefit greatly by reading these pages.

Right from the onset and before you immerse yourself into the reading of these pages, women (and men) need to know three realities of sexual demeanor:

1. LOOKS. Every single woman and every single man without exception will always find someone that recognizes a measure of sexual attractiveness in them. Sexual pull and gratification are measured by a deliberate and inexplicable inner desire. This is why we find beautiful and gorgeous women who are attracted to what some people would consider "unattractive looking" males; and by the same perplexing motivation, a perfectly “Adonis type” male would be attracted to extreme obesity in women.

The above random examples are not as uncommon as people are led to believe, especially by fashion industry icons and TV commercials projecting images that are not always close to life's reality. "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and "Sexual attraction is intricately related to each person's Libido"; inner vision and desire of the individual seeking to achieve her/his own personal sexual gratification.

2. ATTITUDE. Attitude is the single most important ingredient in the art of seduction. Let me repeat this,

Attitude is the single most important ingredient in the art of seduction.
It is the most crucial attribute that some women possess naturally or learn to develop with conscious intent for the successful achievement of sexual goals, purpose and clear realization of accomplishment at any given moment. A possitive ~Attitude~ translates into the following categories and characteristics for our purpose;

a. Demeanor; - drive - motivation - determination - decisiveness - resolve - intent - deceiving (calculated)
b. Gestures; - provocative - daring - bold - shocking - loose - uninhibited
c. Looks; - irresistible - revealing - tantalizing - exotic - sensual - erotic
("LOOKS" have nothing to do with natural beauty)
d. Physical; -touch - contact >>> bust, hands, hips, thighs, legs, feet - subtle movements
e. Verbal; - interesting - exciting - provocative - sensual - erotic - direct - unmistakable

3. ALL OF THE ABOVE are achievable beyond your wildest dreams and imagination, you'll realize your goals 100% of the time and without fail. This book shows you how.

The following chapters and paragraphs contain advise, strategies, recommendations and stratagems in the art of seduction through sensual and sexual manipulation of males for purposes of the female's own personal satisfaction. It is based on the personal experiences of professional individuals, makeup artists and lay women from all walks of life; from savvy prostitutes to experienced housewives, swingers and knowledgeable single females.

This book accomplishes a no-non-sense approach to sexual gratification and extensive recommendations for the right makeup, makeover, dressing for that irresistible “killer” look, flirting action, postures, mannerisms, intimate conversations, overcoming shyness, safety and much more. It includes information on almost everything you need to do and know before you go out for a "one night stand", date, rendezvous, tryst, encounter or if you are seeking a long term relationship with a lover.

This book shows you how to attract potential lovers and the places where you can go and draw the male types more likely to service your needs without complications. Many women fail in their quest in every day life situations. at private parties, singles bar/scene and other places simply because they don’t know the right approach to seduction and/or are biased by their own misconceptions, prejudices, upbringing and prior negative occurrences.

This "Hands-On" manual demonstrates the way to get what you want on your own terms, how to attract the right male individuals and how to avoid pitfalls and the wrong types. This book is, in plain and simple language, about raw sex and how you should go about getting it for yourself. It makes no difference how beautiful, plain looking you are, or how unattractive you consider yourself.
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INTRODUCTION
Sexual thrills seekers play it safe

Women consciously seduce, captivate and mesmerize others into acting according to their desires and for their own self-satisfaction. This is accomplished by provoking an uncontrollable state of erotic arousal on others for an effective sensual and sexual, but calculated delivery inflicted upon your individual target.

Projecting extreme sexual behavior takes a live all of its own, whether it be, for self-indulgence, personal satisfaction or to obtain the desired results in tangible measure; all intended for selfish personal reasons, for selfish desires or just to enhance the passions of married or unmarried couples. This is one instance where selfishness proves to be not only beneficial to the individual, but a necessary step for reasons of safety and self-preservation.

In other words, you go out to achieve what you want and to satisfy your desires on your own terms, not on somebody else's terms. But to do this, you need to entice, allure, appeal, delight, dazzle, charm, tantalize, bewitch, enamor and enchant others. You tools are, attitude, looks, motivation, determination, resolve, image, imagination, flirtation, sensuality, seducement, enticement, engulfment, conversation, boldness, erotic behavior and calculated lewdness. Each of these words has a definitive and exclusive meaning and these are the necessary traits.

However, for the sake of simplicity, delivery of the global concept of "Artful Strategies and Skillful Flirtations" is explicitly made through suggestions, recommendations and explicative's within these pages. Your diligent application of the advise, descriptions and representations in this book will develop and enhance personal traits integrated into your character.

The obvious easy targets are males, because they are extremely gullible an eager for sexual excitement. Nothing said in this book should be construed as legal advise and you should apply common sense in all situations.
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Bibliography; Recommended Reading

Excerpts from The Ethical Slut, a book by Dassie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt

So we are proud to reclaim the word "slut" as a term of approval, even endearment. To us, a slut is a person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you. A slut may choose to have sex with herself only, or with the Fifth Fleet~ She may be heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual, a radical activist or a peaceful suburbanite.

Excerpt from a Review of THE ETHICAL SLUT by William A. Henkin

One of the features that makes The Ethical Slut so valuable as well as entertaining is that long before you've finished reading the book the chances are good that you'll agree with the authors. And more important than agreement, you'll learn valuable lessons. If you're a good slut already, reading a narrative that elevates sluts to the higher planes of humanness can free your mind from a history of other folks' constraints; if you're not yet a good slut and you've a mind to be one, reading this book can let you improve upon your situation while learning to feel good about yourself; and if you don't want to be a slut and you're reading this paper, it's almost inevitable that you already know some sluts, so reading this book (THE ETHICAL SLUT) will help you help your friends to live richer more rewarding, and/or more honest lives.

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TESTIMONIALS (Artful Strategies and Skillful Flirtations for Insatiable Females)

I’m a married housewife for over 20 years and in my mid-forties. After reading this book and following some of its suggestions and recommendations I went out on my own and for the first time since I got married I had the kind of wild and satisfying sex that I used to experience in my twenties. Wow, this shit works.

Brenda, NYC

Hey guys, I work for a law firm in Los Angeles and the competition to attract males from young chicks with sculptured bodies out here is fierce and brutal. For many years after my divorce I’ve tried almost everything under the sun to get something going with somebody and I’ve got to a point where I had just given up hope. Then, a friend loaned me her copy of your book. Well, to make a long story short, I read the book from cover to cover and the very first night I went out I found this guy with whom I had unbelievable sex, I just couldn’t believe it, . Then, over the following week I had a fantastic time with two other married guys who just went “nuts” over me. Thanks a million.

Carolyn, LA, CA

I always thought that men and me didn’t mix. I’m not what you’d call an attractive woman . I read this book and admittedly, I had to get someone to do my makeover according to the instructions in the book and my best friend helped with my very sexy ensemble. All I will say is that from now on, I’ll never stay home again or miss out on all the fun I had last Saturday night.

Jennifer, NJ
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I. THE BLACK WIDOW
The Black Widow Effect for Sexual Thrill Seeking Females

The black widow spider fucks her mate first and then she kills him without mercy. Women out for sexual thrills go for the kill first (you kill them with your irresistible looks, seductive and flirting action which combination act like an aphrodisiac and deliver an intoxicating effect as potent as the venom delivered by the black widow spider, (but, not quite as deadly) and you then fuck them for personal satisfaction and rewards, it doesn't have to be prostitution, (which is illegal in most places) but it has the same basic effect, except that when you do it for personal pleasure its perfectly legal.

While it helps to have a degree of personal good looks and attractiveness, this is immaterial. For one thing, the use of cosmetics, facial arrangements and sensually enhanced personal grooming go to great lengths toward achieving and projecting the desired image. If you lack the confidence to know that you'll look enticing, fascinating, tempting and provocative with cosmetic applications, suitable garments and accesories then just look at some of the most glamorous box office (movie) stars without their makeover and expensive attires and you'll then know the difference between beautiful and not-so-beautiful.

Appropriately applied professional intense makeover, low cleavage or a revealing blouse and a "pussy-showing-mini-skirt" may not be appropriate for church, social functions or family affairs, but extremely effective for a wild night in town or out of town. Concentrate your beautifying efforts on your face, your cleavage, your thighs and shoes. Create an irresistible vertical line of up and down vision from your eyes, lips, boobs, to your thighs all the way down to your feet. If you are not a professional makeup artist or knowledgeable at applying sophisticated makeup for yourself, have somebody else do it for you.

Use the wild dark lipstick colors according to your skin complexion. (achieve a savvy woman‘s look; avoid the light “Lolita“ type lipstick colors) Lips are the part of your face that are in constant verbal motion or by deliberate sensual movement and you'd want males to focus their vision on your face and your penetrating eyes accented by your lips; induce your selected male(s) to go into a state of fascination for your sensual & luscious lips subtly advertising to him and to other males intent and meaning with your "trick movements of the trade" using your eyes, lips, tongue, hips, legs and slightly brushing your hands, arms, etc. against parts of his body. You'd want to achieve the look of a high priced call girl even when you are out just for sex, fun and self gratification.

Other people can better visualize what the opposite gender wants to see and finds attractive and sexy; as a woman, ask a man to check you out in your selected outfit according to the "look" you want to project (make sure that you let them know that you'd like to project a provocative image, slutty or anything else) or ask another woman with a knowledge in this matter. Imagine yourself at a party or social function being attended by any number of couples and some really beautiful wives in their midst. One of the women, perhaps not-so-beautiful, is sexually attired in a mini skirt, luscious makeup, displaying a very provocative cleavage and high heels. She suddenly becomes the focus of direct or indirect attention from any number of males attending this function. The rest of the women are simply enraged by her presence and promptly label the sexually attired woman "a slut".

Whatever they think of this woman, the other women are simply experiencing a mixed bag of emotions that include "anger and jealousy" because they know that their men are being drawn to this woman like bees to a "pot of honey". You've seen this occurrence quite a few times on different occasions. If this little account is any indication as to what you can achieve by doing exactly what "slutty labeled" women do, you then have the tools in your hands to deliver the same effect any time you wish, and to do it with deliberate purpose in order to achieve your far reaching desires. The sky is the limit; your compensation goes from self-gratification, gifts, simple fun, personal satisfaction, profitable business venture or to land yourself a better job. After all, nothing in life is for free.
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II. CHECKLIST
Here is an extended checklist of recommended garments, makeup
and essentials for an exciting night out. Re-enforcing the concepts.

If you already know how to achieve a desired effect that works for you, then just review these suggestions, but do your thing.

Arms; You might wear a wrap-around gold or silver band according to your attire.

Arms | Forearms; You may wear any mid-arm bracelet or one that wraps around your arm in "snake" fashion in gold or silver, according to your attire. Wrist bracelets up to you mid-forearm are fashionable. The key here is to wear color coordinated accesories. Do not mix gold and silver, wear either one of the other color; different shades of the same color are acceptable. When you wear multicolor bracelets, try to coordinate one or two of the colors with other jewelry.

Blouse; Wear a low cut blouse or dress and lots of cleavage with the additional means to reveal even more cleavage as required, especially when you are facing heavy competition by other wife/slutty types seeking the same kind of fun. Show more cleavage, unbutton your blouse as necessary as the night progresses into the late hours and early morning, especially, when you are getting closer to drag the poor bastard out the door to make him work on your satisfaction. (your compensation) Your perfume should send the strongest scent from your boobs and strong scent from the lower part of your body should air the fragrance from the movement of your inner thighs.

Body; Take a shower no longer than one of hour before leaving, use a soap with skin conditioners or apply a skin conditioner that will make your skin soft and pliable. Use a deodorant recommended for women like "Secret" brand or any other suitable brand. Soaps and deodorants that are formulated for women are designed to provide long lasting protection, but to not overpower the scent and fragrance of your perfume.

Breasts; Whether your tits are big or small, wear a laced and seductive half cup, push-up bra in bright colors of red, black, purple, green, lavender or skin color (avoid yellow, pink and white) Make sure that the half cup barely covers the aureola (the brown, pinkish round part) of your nipples. Don't be afraid to use push-up padding underneath your breasts to pull them up and high if you have small breasts or even large breasts and you want to make them look bigger. Remove the padding at the right moment, without him noticing it.

Dress; If you wear a dress instead of a skirt make it a night gown type or chemise -short-, (simple, not too elaborate and not like any wedding reception dress) the important thing here is very low cut for cleavage and a side cut from your ankles to your upper thighs where you are able to control as little or as much as you want to show at the right moment.

Ears; If your ears are pierced to fit several earrings, wear any number of small earrings and a larger pair at the bottom from your ear lobes. If your ears are only pierced to wear one earring, then wear one pair large enough to make a statement of beauty and attraction like, a 2 inch loop and as large and heavy looking as you'd like it when your hair is pulled back and your ears are clear of any obstructions; this will make your face and contours more noticeable. If on the other hand, your hair is loose on the sides and is constantly moving to the front of your face, wear small-to-medium size earrings.

Eyes; A dark (black) eye liner that will accent your eyes. Detailed eye arrangement helps a great deal.

Eye Shadow; Slightly overdo your eye shadow. Wear an eye shadow that is noticeable, seductive and one that outlines the contours below your eyebrows down over your eye lids to your eyelashes.

Eyelashes; use mascara, do it slightly (don't overdo your eyelashes)

Foundation; Base liquid/cream foundation in a suntan color, (avoid the pinkish or red cheeks glow that advertises you as a cheap slut) instead use soft blush to lightly accent a contour to highlight your face.

Feet; Very clean and well manicured toenails. A 5" or 6" high heel shoe or sandal is a must, and a pair with spiked heels sends the right message. If you are a tall woman, wear your high heels according to the man's size you'd be looking to attract. A woman in high heels towering at about 5'8 will be most likely to attract men over 5'10" and so on. Women with a height of 5'0" should top at 5'5" or 5'6" in high heels, a perfect height for almost any size man. (also see Shoes)

Hair; Wash your hair with a softly scented or "no scent" shampoo and apply a slightly scented conditioner.

Hands; Definitely, wear more than one ring on your fingers in gold, silver or combination. Colored rings are fashionable and acceptable.

Legs; A gold ankle bracelet sends a strong message that you are a "stud hound" and looking for the right kind of fun. If you choose to display a temporary tattoo, its better to display it right above the ankle bracelet on your left ankle. This way you only have to worry about moving one leg whenever you want to show/display your body decorations. Display your permanent tattoos proudly as a statement of your personality.

Lips; Use wild dark lipstick colors (a good brand that will last all night without smudges) and overdo your lips, use lip liner to accent the outside contour of your mouth in a darker color; do the outside contour in black if you are using a dark color lipstick. Don't be afraid of extending your lip line over the actual line of your lips if you have thin lips, or slightly over-extending the lines of your lips even when you have full lips.

Nails; Wear impeccable (fake) long nails with a designer's look; longer nails impart a highly sophisticated look. Wear maximum length without showing a "bent nail" appearance.

Neck; A new fad (fashion) is to wear a solid metal neckwear in a "cat collar fashion" whether it be gold or silver, but with a luxurious look, according to your attire. Avoid any collars made out of fabric, they look cheap. A short chain that wraps around your neck and over your cleavage is attractive when you also wear a pendant that adds to your sexy image with a suggestive word, combination of words or your stage name (adopt a "sexy stage name", after all, a function, bar, club or lounge is your stage) use a suggestive and sensually attractive nickname (which doesn't has to be your real name) They are great ice breakers and conversation pieces, especially when they stupidly ask, Is that your name? "No, baby, this is for your imagination to find out!" (see list of pendant & nicknames in Chapter XII)

Panties; Just two words. "Forget It!" Be ready to fuck anytime the occasion arises and you are in such a state of arousal that you just have to fuck the guy, and fuck anywhere, especially, when it would be unsafe to go to a motel or worse like, his place, when you don't know the person. Carry a panty in your purse just for emergencies.

Perfume; Wear your perfume behind the ears, on the back of your neck and on the back of your wrists and inner elbows, not in front. The idea is that your perfume should send a strong scent from the back at any movement of your head, your ears and upper back and to not interfere with other fragrances like the slight fragrance of your hair (use a light fragrance conditioner) so as to allow your expensive perfume to permeate. Wear perfume within the valley of your cleavage, between what males perceive as "mountains of joy". The slight movement of your hands and your arms re-enforces the perfume permeating from your boobs and will air the scent into his nostrils.

Wear your perfume on your inner thighs not too close to your genitals and behind your knees, not on your pussy. Your clean pussy has a delicious odor all its own, especially when the sexual connotations of your encounter, arousal and spicy conversation are already working on your glands, and you don't want to mask this natural aphrodisiac. Wear a little perfume placed on the ankles.

Purse; Your purse is your line of defense. Carry your cigarettes, lighter, makeup and makeover artifacts, panty, a little perfume, condoms, your extra liquor, if you prefer (do not drive if you are a carefree drinker), but also carry your condoms, Mace® or pepper spray, your whistle or little stun gun (illegal in some states) for your safety. Include a one inch roll of quarters (coins) placed inside a heavy sock just in case you run into trouble with any drunkard or abuser. Use your sock with the coins and hit away at his head while using your knees or your feet for kicking his balls.

Be ready to protect yourself whenever the occasion arises. It's likely that he'll be using his hands to avoid your striking purse while his balls are open game, and strike his head with your mean sock one more time as he's bending over in pain and just before you run away. Don't use your stun gun (illegal in some states) until he is on the ground. Its good to carry quarters anyway for emergency phone calls even when you have a cellular phone and the batteries run out. Another, sometimes better alternative, is to hit him repeatedly with your purse and hold the stun gun with your other hand to "zap" him at the first chance you get. (be careful) Stun guns are illegal in some states, better use Mace® or pepper spray.

Always beware of your surroundings and never be left alone anywhere unless you are fucking someone you know in a safe place. (we advise that you fuck strangers in the backseat of your car parked in close proximity to a bar or lounge.

Shoes; High heels are a must for the occasion like, the type club strippers wear all the time. (also known as “fuck me shoes”) A good rule of thumb is to wear your 6" high heels when you are up to 5'1" in height; wear 5" high heels if you are 5'2" and up to 5'3" in height. Or lower heels, 4" or lower if you are 5'4" and over. And don't say that you can handle high heels, bull shit! practice at home all the time until you are able to run in high heels if you have to. High heels are the natural compliment to your entire attire and you'll look like a million bucks. Choose a sexy very low heel sandal if you are 5'6" and over. (also see Feet)

Skirt; A "pussy-showing-mini-skirt" is extremely effective for a wild night in town or out of town. A short mini skirt will keep his eyes where you want them all night, moving up and down. They can't help but trying to guess if you are wearing panties or if you are "al fresco". Any slight movement of your legs and thighs will force his vision downwards by the strong lower fragrance of your perfume in a attempt to catch a glimpse of your pussy. A short mini provides the right pressure on his eyes.

Tattoos; Its perfectly acceptable nowadays to display a tattoo on your body, whether it be, a band of some kind around your arm or a little design (your choice) and there are many high quality, temporary tattoos in the market for many occasions.

In my opinion, the view of your cleavage should not be distracted by a tattoo and you have no control of your back to gain an edge from its display. However, you are in full control of your upper thigh, your leg and your ankle and its visible indoors in all seasons and mostly outdoors in spring, summer and fall. Another school of thought views a small tattoo on the breast as highly attractive. The places where a tattoo is considered most sexy is in your upper thigh (the sexiest and the most provocative when you are wearing a skirt with a high side cut) or ankle just above the ankle bracelet (the second sexiest), your leg is a close third choice. A breast tattoo is also considered by some as very sexy, provocative and seductive.

Whatever you decide, wear a high quality temporary tattoo where it will do you most good for the occasion; on your upper thigh, your leg, your ankle or your ~arm~ (considered "avant garde") If you already have a permanent tattoo on your breast, your back or arms, do not wear any other tattoos if you plan to display the one(s) you already have.

Thighs; Wear nothing but perfume in the right places or in a strategically placed and attractive tattoo that would reveal itself by the side cut of your long or short skirt.

Toes; Apply a sophisticated toenail polish slightly highlighted by gold or silver glitter according to your jewelry.

Cigarettes; For smokers only. While an increasing number of people and many places frown upon smokers, it's perfectly acceptable for nightlife escapades, in fact, its considered sexy and provocative. Any bar, club or lounge allows outdoors smoking almost anywhere you go. It's a given that when people are having drinks, smoking goes hand in hand. Outdoor smoking allows for a more intimate and provocative conversation with your intended target; you have an excuse to step outside with your intended target for a more private chat.

Try to select a brand of cigarettes that is light and that permeates a soft and delicate aroma and especially one that won't overpower your fragrance; but compliments your perfume. Try several brands and ask other smokers or non-smokers to judge. The aroma of a cigarette is so enticing that some perfumes are formulated to deliver such fragrance like "Paris" and other less expensive brands. Today, many women non-smokers enjoy flavored little cigars for a night out. Warning; do not smoke if you are a non-smoker, it looks awful for someone to smoke when it shows that you are not used to smoking.

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III. THE TRICKS OF THE TRADE
Projecting your image; a combination of looks and irresistible attitude

Flirting Action; Concentrate your beautifying efforts on your face, your cleavage and your thighs, as I have, by now, said repeatedly in order to re-enforce the concept. Create an irresistible vertical line of up and down vision from your lips to your boobs, to your thighs and feet. Remember, your lips are the part of your face that are in constant movement and you'd want males to focus their vision on your face and your penetrating eyes accented by eye shadow and your lips; advertise to him and to other males with your "trick movements of the trade" that you wouldn't mind being kissed by the right stud. Let him work hard for the chance to do just that.

This is important, so I'm repeating myself here: "You want to achieve the look of a high priced call girl, even when you are out just for sexual fun and self-gratification". Use your hands, your arms, thighs and legs to re-enforce the perfume permeating from specific parts of your body; your body actions will air the scent into his nostrils. Manipulate your cleavage by pulling down on your blouse's or dress' low upper cut or by opening the buttons of your blouse even lower as you wish in order to add a dramatic effect to specific moments. In other words, provocative cleavage is paramount at all times and close to "getting arrested" exposure of your breasts adds a highly dramatic touch towards your goal of making your male companion transfer over to you total control of the situation. Keep his head in the clouds.

Use your eyes to indicate interest and sensuality and by maintaining eye to eye contact. This intense energy generally provides for your source of free drinks and more. Use your eyes to briefly engage flirting action with other males and to inflict concern and jealousy, thus indicating to your target that he should start making a more assertive approach towards you or lose you to another, perhaps, more interested male.

Use your lips as a re-enforced line of action when you are looking to be more provocative, slightly wet your lips with your tongue indicating that physical contact is a real possibility, slightly wet the rim of the glass with your tongue at pre-conceived intervals (you should hold these provocations until you are absolutely sure that you have already extracted your desired retribution in the form of free drinks or other advances) and you want him to move closer to you for your continued compensation.

Slowly sip from your glass as you fix your sight into his eyes and look at him when your glass is empty. Touching your pussy and delicately licking your finger after smelling it (your finger) is a definitive sign and aphrodisiac.

If you smoke, (if the place allows smoking) and some women do for these occasions, take a long puff, holding your cigarette by your extended fingers clearly showing your well manicured nails and let out your slightly protruding tongue savor the smoke as its being slowly exhaled out of your mouth or as, in a "french fashion", being re-inhaled by your nostrils. If he is in full sight of your lower beauty and in front of you, move your lower hips, thighs and legs towards him, cross your legs and start caressing, ever so slowly, you upper thighs for a short while then slightly pull your short mini skirt and let out a glimpse of your inner thighs or pull your skirt even more to reveal just below your pussy if he is seating next to you.

Now, while he is still in full sight and in front of you, maintain the position of your lower hips, thighs and crossed legs directed at him while you gently pull your short mini skirt still slowly caressing you upper thighs; slightly move your hand lifting the side of your skirt towards the back of your chair and let out a glimpse of the side of your ass. Use your up and down vertical line movements; eyes, lips, boobs and thigh to control his every movement.

Unintentionally in appearance, but deliberately, lightly touch his upper thigh closer and closer to his crotch and finally to his tool; do this from time to time until it gets time to fully grab his manhood, by now, fully erect, and you are fully ready to slay your prey. You then say close to his ear, in your most sexually enticing and intoxicating voice, "lets go baby, -'gimme- what you have and make me happy". (practice voice enticing mechanisms in Chapter V. Overcoming Shyness and Introducing Erotic Talk)

If you want to test this theory move your head slightly, lightly touch and move your hair towards your face and whoever (male) is seating next to you will look at your eyes and your lips, now move your hands slightly around your boobs as you move the protruding roundness of your tits slightly forward to air the scent from your cleavage, and slightly brush a couple of your fingers caressing the outer roundness of your breast allowing your male victim to glance way down and deep into your scanty, tight bra and your hooters and you'll find your man's eyes fixed on your tits. Lastly, move your hips as you slightly open your legs to air the scent. He'll be looking down for sure.

What you have accomplished, is full control of his head movements and line of vision. What's next? Your provocative conversation will keep him coming your way, doing, saying and agreeing to whatever you say and do. You are in control, and he's rapidly losing his head and better judgment. When you combine the fragrance of your perfume, the sweet smelling smoke (if you smoke), the soft bouquet of your drink, the faint scent of your lipstick and other applications, the aroma of your just washed hair & skin and the ever increasing smell of your most intimate womanly desires, plus the visual vertical effects that you have created for this kill, no amount of resistance can overcome the intoxicating effects.

Here are the biggest tips on flirting from the book "The Fine Art of Flirting" by Joy Jillson (Simon and Schuster):
Be friendly.

Don't let past rejections cloud your judgment or make you paranoid about an interaction going on right now (that's fair to neither of you).

Be prepared, both physically and emotionally. This means looking your best as often as you can (people do meet in the oddest places ... ), and not dragging past or present personal troubles into a new interaction.

Ask specific, open-ended questions of the person you're flirting with; these demonstrate that you're interested specifically in them as a person, and also provide an opportunity for the discussion to take a romantic/sexual turn.

Look for humor in what the person you're flirting with is saying, and let yourself laugh at his jokes if you find them funny.

Try to look your best, and use good posture and eye contact.

Don't follow people around or act needy.

Don't be insincere.

... and ways to find out if someone is interested in you, from the book "The Fine Art of Flirting" by Joy Jillson (Simon and Schuster):

If he is acting more flirtatious toward you than toward other people at the same event. if his friends are paying attention to you when he isn't around (often a clue that this person talked to his friends about you).

If he is smiling while listening to you, and seems to be listening especially "actively."

Some good advise:

Use flattery

Say "Hello" with energy

Shake hands (depending on circumstances)

Make immediate, direct eye contact

Repeat the person's name (make the conversation personal)

Say "no one ever asked me that before!" to some of his questions

Ask for your new friend's life story

Have something to say by keeping up-to-date on slutty affairs.

Play with a piece of clothing or use action (i.e. playing with an earring, stirring a drink, adjusting your hair, show cleavage, use lip movements, your tongue, etc.)

Whisper in his ear, lightly touching it with your lips and softly blow around his earlobes.

Introduce others to some new activity or form of art or whatever

Keep them wanting more contact.

Create and use nicknames.

Drop Names (i.e. show your intimate connections to other important people, make up names if he is from out of town. This will increase whatever type of compensation you are seeking) Even a better job for yourself.

Wear, bring, or carry something unusual like a strange piece of jewelry. Tell him that an important political figure gave it to you.

Limit the amount of time you flirt (to take the pressure off yourself if you haven't yet gotten to the point where you are a savvy -experienced- flirt)

Set a numerical goal (i.e. "I will flirt with four, five, six, ten or whatever number of people tonight ... ")

If one specific place works for you, keep going to that place. More people get to know you that way and they'll always be looking for you when they go there.

Show your interest for others when you are attracted or interested in some one. If you strike an interest for someone and plan to stay with that person, don't loose the opportunity to know others. Excuse yourself for a second or two, signal the other person and get a phone number for another tryst, rendezvous or date. Or, better if you have your phone number already on a piece of paper and hand it over to the other person.

Get attired in a "killer" look & fashion. A "killer" look doesn't have to be an expensive outfit.

USE PRESENTATION CARDS. Your presentation card comes very handy to establish future contacts, especially if you are already firmly engaged with a male that you've selected " to be your fuck for the night", but on the way to the bathroom you happen to cross paths with someone interesting. Hand him your card and tell him that you would like to hear from him soon. (Business cards you can do with your computer)

Don'ts of Flirting

Don't depend on others to make things happen

Don't tease (subtly or aggressively offer what you intend to give)

Don't cling (don't stay tuned to someone who is not interacting with you)

Don't dwell on your performance (use lots of flirting action in order to attract attention)

Don't fidget (giggle, twitch, jiggle or squirm) act in a deliberate mood according to the image you want to project and project an image that sends a strong message that "you mean serious business". Send a message that you are not flirting just for kicks Use your penetrating eyes and deliberate face expressions.

Tips for flirting at parties are:

When you first get there, grab some food or a drink and notice what seems to be going on socially, what the dynamic seems to be, etc. The people who seem lost will be the easiest folk to successfully flirt with.

Assume that everyone is socially nervous; cut them some slack if things initially seem awkward, and look for ways you can make people more comfortable.

Tips for creating a flirtatious and cozy environment at home are:

Have a cozy place to sit (those L-shaped couches are best) Seat in front or sideways to the other person. Don't move closer until you are ready to make your move; this is an indication that you are ready to play.

Use sexual flirtations while you are seated in front of the other person.

Get up from time to time and walk around the room. This promotes action instead of idle conversation.

Keep liquor and glasses on the table. (if you drink socially)

Use flirtatious voice inflections and sexual overtones.

Keep the temperature on the warm side.

Ask if he doesn't mind your smoking, if you smoke.

Keep the place in warm colors and not too sterile (women's books, knick-knacks, sexy games, etc. tend to help).

Be able to adjust the lighting (dimmer switches are nice, and candles are probably the most romantic way to illuminate the room). Play soft music and adjust it to the mood for the occasion.

Clear out your medicine cabinet: keeping old bottles of prescription medications for maladies you no longer have or need invites incorrect speculation. If you had a slight yeast condition a couple of months ago, but is now gone, hide your prescription elsewhere, not where others can see It.

Other good tips,

Be the bearer of good news, avoid bad news when flirting. You never know how the other person could get affected by bad news and ruin your night.

Be a good listener

Go out of your way to meet new people

Pick up the telephone. Set up a phone answering machine or voice mail.

Learn when not to say anything (i.e. avoid malicious gossip)

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IV. THE CONVERSATION
Playing the field

A sample conversation might go like this, (you need to prolong the conversation for as long as you wish; according to your desires and motives.

He is looking at your pendant that says "Lusty?"

He, Is that your name?

She, What do you think?

He, Well, I don't know, what does it mean?

She, Well, use your imagination

He, I'm using it, but its hard to tell

She, Let me know when you are finished.

He, Is this a game?

She, I don't play games, but it pays to be creative sometimes

He, How creative do you want me to be?

She, If you are not creative, you are wasting your mind

He, Let me see, I think it may have to do with something about you

She, OK, your are getting warm, tell me more

He, Something you do or the way you are?

She, Well, I'm sure I'll hear your point sometime soon

He, Let's see, Lusty, Lusty?

She, Yes, I am, how about you?

He, Lusty?

She, No, how about Lust, (you want to say, idiot) but you say, darling

He, I love lust

She, Do you? well, we've got something in common

He, Lust is good

She, Bah, do you want a hint?

He, go ahead

She, that's what some people call me sometimes in private? Especially the ones who given me the most pleasure.

He, your hubby?

She, Husbands don't advertise their wives. Would you advertise your wife this way?

He, No, I suppose not

She, Well, then?

He, You must be very hot in bed

She, Well, now you are getting hot, you are talking my language.

He, What do you like to do in bed?

She, I think, the question is, What would you do to a woman in bed?

He, Oh, baby, I'd make her feel so good that she'd scream

She, Really, How loud?

He, Very loud

She, How deep?
He, Veeeeery deep

She, Well, tell me how deep is deep?

He, Very deep, Can you take deep?

She, Oh, I can take deep, What I'd like to know is how deep can you go?

He, Well, see for yourself

She, (after touching his size) you say, OK, that's deep (you already know how large he is, because part of your game includes slightly touching and brushing against the most intimate part of his body early on. That's why you've allowed him to get this far into the situation.

He, Is that enough deep?

She, I think that's deep enough, Can you move it that deep?

He, I can move it very deep and fast

She, Can you move it straight? It feels kind of bent, like you being fucking around corners.

He, Don't worry, it goes in fine and deep.

She, You are sure of yourself, Huh!

He, Well, I try

She, I like men who try hard, do you try hard?

He, I try very hard, baby

She, Well, its thick, long with a twist, That's interesting

He, Well then,

She, Well then, What?

He, Want to go somewhere?

She, Why, you feel that you need to prove something?

He, No, I just want to prove myself to you

She, Wow, no one has ever said that to me before

He, Is that a plus?

She, That's a definitive plus, but, only if you mean what you say

He, Well, do you want me to prove it to you?

She, How would you prove it?

He, Lets go somewhere and you'll see

She, What do you have in mind?

He, I know this motel nearby

She, Well, but! I barely know you, we just met.

He, What would you like to see, a drivers license?

She, I need something more concrete

He, Like what?

She, Use your imagination

He, Why don't we go and we can talk on the way?

She, Not so fast and besides, You are not ready

He, Oh, I'm ready baby

She, Let me see, It doesn't feel ready for deep

He, Oh, its ready for deep baby

She, Well, do you think I'm ready?

He, Let me see

She, No, I'll check and give you a sample. She touches his nose with her pussy-wet-finger.

He, I caught a sweet smell, Oh, you are ready baby

She, Well, Are you still thinking about something more concrete? (are this point you decide how you want to handle this fuck, let him say whatever comes to his mind)

She, Well, I don't know, (you touch his cock) Oh my, my, you are dripping

He, Baby, I'm dripping for you

She, Lets go baby, show me what you have and make me happy before it goes to waste on the stool!

There is no theme, no drama, no script to this conversation; the point is to just engage in a hot conversation leading to intense sex, that's it! As long as you make it HOT, you can't go wrong. Take him to your nearby parked car and fuck him in the back seat. Don't go to a motel with a perfect stranger. Let the bartender know that you'll be back in a few minutes.
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V. OVERCOMING SHYNESS
Introducing Erotic Talk

Excerpts from the book Exhibitionism For The Shy by Carol Queen. Dr. Queen suggests (among other things) becoming more comfortable with erotic talk by talking to yourself out loud while masturbating and listening to the sound of your voice. If you try this and it feels awkward to you, then you might consider taking her extensive advice on overcoming verbal shyness: Talking in an erotic voice goes a long way towards achieving a successful encounter. Practice makes perfect, and this is an active workshop. You're so shy that sexual words just won't come out, start with sounds. Erotic moans and murmurs can turn a lover on as much as naughty stories, and they're a wonderful way for you to get used to making some noise. You can incorporate this into masturbation. Especially if you think of erotic words or phrases before you get to the point where you are moaning and gasping, you will find that as you get more turned on, the words will superimpose themselves onto the sounds. Like magic, instead of vocalizing "Uhn! Uhn!" you'll find yourself saying "Yes! Yes!" - then maybe "More! Harder! Give it to me!"

Of course she is not suggesting that you talk dirty right from the start in a conversation with someone you just met, but practicing dirty talk will release your inner-self and overcome your shyness to talk with an erotic voice. This is what this chapter is all about.

"Too Shy to Talk?", it would be terrific for someone who is just getting started with erotic talk, as it initially focuses on becoming comfortable using erotic language and slang terms. Once you've gotten some level of comfort with erotic words, Dr. Queen recommends hot telephone calls with your lover or close friend as a good place to start out with him or her. Two slutty companions can practice over the phone and make comments as to how they can improve each other.

A useful trick when beginning to talk with a partner is to do it live, but over the phone. You will have a cloak of privacy that respects your shyness yet doesn't shore it up. Arrange a time you can feel comfortable exploring telephone play. If your partner has requested phone sex or dirty talk, great - but you might still want to talk about it before you start dialing, if only to reassure yourself that the timing is right and that your lover's or partner's response will be positive. Otherwise, you run the risk of putting your partner on the spot, perhaps rendering her as tongue-tied as you're trying to learn not to be!

Of course, you can do all this in person too. Picking up the phone first, before the face-to-face encounter, is optional - but it often helps if you find that in person you get too easily distracted by all your wonderful options for nonverbal communication. As fabulous as kissing is, it's hard to make yourself understood when your lips are pressed against your lover's. Phone sex forces you to talk - or at least moan and sigh - because you can't touch or see each other's expressions. Besides, phone sex is a hot alternative whether you're shy or bold.

Another, very viable alternative is to call one of those "sex motels" than rent rooms for a couple of hours and start talking dirty to the guy at the other end. This is a wonderful and live practice with a total stranger and assures you of total privacy, be sure to "block" your, or his ID caller, so no one knows your name and phone number. Here you can be as open, dirty and slutty as you'd want to be and if this guy is not in the mood for such talk just try another motel until you find some horny guy on the phone who thinks that he's found someone to fool around with or maybe even fuck at some point in time. Who knows maybe you'll fuck the guy soon if you find the right chemistry and a new potential lover and another source of compensation. Talk about your "menu" and the cost of "special meals"

Tbe Words That are Hot for You,

Pay attention to the voice you use when you talk during masturbation. It doesn't matter what you say - try repeating the phrase "Oh, yes" during masturbation, 'giving it every erotic inflection you can. Do any of these tones feel more erotic to you? If you find one that does, explore it some more - narrate a fantasy, talk to an imaginary partner, or say anything sexy that comes into your head. You "want to find elements of hot talk that make you hotter, and masturbation is the very best time to do this - especially if you feel self-conscious experimenting this way with your partner.

Dr. Queen goes on to describe a valuable exercise where you take a list of "sex words" of her book and read them using a variety of the "feeling words" The idea is both to learn what nuances (and personas) you respond to and/or resonate with, and to gain skill using your voice as an erotic instrument: Here are some of the words, read them and repeat them out loud in a very erotic voice (perhaps, they won't sound· as erotic as when you are masturbating, but try them anyway,

I'm a bitch,
I'm a bad bitch,
I'm a slut,
I'm a loose babe,
Eat my cunt,
Eat my pussy,
Eat my bush,
Give me your cock,
I love a big cock,
Your prick is great,
Your dick is delicious,
Fuck my pussy,
Fucking is great,
Fuck my ass,
Lick my asshole,
My pussy is wet,
My pussy is hot,
My pussy is dripping,
I love your dripping cock,
I love your hot cock,
I love your wet cock,
Shit fuck me now,
I want to suck your cock,
I want to lick your cock,
Touch my tits,
Pinch my nipples,
I'm cumming,
Are you ready to cum?,
I love your cock banging my pussy,
Suck my pussy, Lick my pussy,
Put your tongue in my pussy,
Stick it in my pussy,
Lick my ass,
Stick it in my ass,
I love your cock fucking my ass,
You are a pussy eater,
You have a big boner,
Your cock is hard,
I love your hard cock,
You are a cock sucker,
You are a cock eater,
Stick that cock in your ass,
Suck that cock,
Eat that cock,
Lick that cock,
Fuck that cock,
Swallow it, bitch,
You love a big cock,
Let that cock fuck your ass,
You are a cock eating son of a bitch,
You are a cock sucking bastard,
You are a cock sucker and a prick,
You bastard son of a bitch.
You faggot.
You sissy cock sucking, tongue licking, cum swallower, perverted queer, bitch.

Repeat these words at least three times and make it more erotic each time,

Fuck me baby
Oh baby fuck me
Oh, yes, harder, harder
Give it to me hard
Fuck your bitch
Fuck my cunt, you bastard
Oh, man you have a great cock
I love to suck your cock
I love it, I love it
Make me hot, squeeze my tits, shit, this is good

Now, try these phrase three times each and make them sound more erotic each time,

I'm a fucking slut and I want you to cum in my pussy
Blow your cum into my hot pussy baby
Now, yes, yes, I like it, yes baby, I love it
C'mon baby give it, just give to me baby, now, now....
I want to feel your hot cum III my cunt
Oh, I love your cock, yes, yes, yes
Ah, oh, God I feel your cock inside me
I love it, I love it
Don't stop, now harder, harder
Oh yes, I'm cumming baby, I cumming, Shit
Oh, shit, this is fucking good
Oh baby I never had it so good
Your cock is great, fuck it slow baby, just keep banging me until I die
Take my cunt baby and fuck it anyway you want
Oh, yes give me your big cock, you prick

You can also convey nuance verbally by being more descriptive. Once you can utter one hot word, you're set to embroider it into phrases and sentences. If you say "Fuck" while having sex it will convey your turn-on in one way; if you say "Fuck me" you'll give a somewhat different impression; if you add specifics:

"Fuck me slowly,"
"Fuck me hard,"
"Fuck me now,"
"Fuck me up against the wall,"

You'll begin to get control of the word's erotic power - you'll be able to convey what you want and how you want it.

Similarly, if you load your sex talk with adjectives - "your hot, wet, dripping, hungry pussy" - and descriptive phrases, you'll weave a stronger erotic spell. Try the following exercises with the most erotic voice that you can muster and listen to yourself when you are talking. The next time you go out you'll be able to say "Can you pass me that napkin baby" in exactly the same voice. You will be able to say this as if you were feeling the sensations of masturbation and climax. Fill in the blanks. (these exercises are excellent for voice training and to develop your imagination - a vivid imagination is an excellent an necessary tool for women seeking a wild night out.

Incomplete Sentences (fill in the blanks)

(try these exercises with at least 3 sets of different words)

You make me so __________________________________________(adj)

I want you to____________________(verb) my_________________(noun)

You make my___________________(noun)_____________________(adj)

Your_____________________ (noun) makes me so______________(adj)

I want to________________________(verb) your_______________(noun)

I want to____________(verb) your___________(adj)____________(noun)

I love it when you___________________(verb) my_____________(noun)

I want to make your_________________(noun)_________________(adj)

I love to look at your__________________(adj)________________(noun)

Thinking about you makes my______________(noun)____________(adj)

Then try these,

_________________ (Verb) me!___________(Verb) me now!
_________________ (Verb) my____________(noun)!
I love the way your___________(adj)___________(noun) feels against my___________(adj)___________(noun)

I need to feel your___________(adj)___________(adj)___________ (noun) inside my___________(adj)___________(adj)___________(noun)

I love the way your___________(adj)___________(noun) feels against my___________(adj)___________(noun)

I have to___________(verb) your___________(adj)___________(noun)

I want you to play with my___________(adj)___________(noun)

Stick your (adj)___________(noun) in my___________,(adj)___________(noun)

I want to make your___________(adj)___________(noun)___________(adj)!

___________(Verb) me like a___________(adj)___________(adj) animal!

Carol Queen demonstrates the power of being specific and detailed in erotic talk, and of involving many different senses in one's story-telling or straight talk.

Shar (a shy subject) & Jackie [two friends of Carol] have customized their hot talk with detailed nuance and description. When Shar tells Jackie a story she takes a long time to build up to the climax. "She knows what color the walls are," says Shar. She knows what the shoes sound like on the floor. She knows what the air smells like. She knows what the velvet feels like. One very simple story I told her recently was set in the '90s, on a train.

In this lesbian story, Jackie hadn't touched a pussy in a long time, and she was about to touch mine, Jackie played the part of a stranger at a cocktail lounge. "The wind was blowing my hair, my dress was falling open, I had on thigh-high stockings, and she' reached up to touch my ass. Her hand slid up past my stockings and onto the fleshy thighs. I described that brief moment before she touched the pubic hair - she hadn't touched such nice, silky, moist pubic hair in so long. She felt the electricity from my pussy in her fingers. Just when her middle finger slipped between the silky pussy hairs into the crack of my cunt, where it was so wet that she could just slide back to my asshole ... Barn! Jackie came."

When Showing Off Is Your Job,

Carol Queen offers some valuable suggestions for people who may be interested in doing erotic talk (or any other form of sex work) professionally. Among other things, she suggests it may be helpful for you to choose a professional name; lookup list of names in Chapter XII) this gives you an opportunity to develop a whole working persona around your new name. If in real-life (as "Susan") you are shy and reserved, then perhaps in your sexy persona (as "Vicki") you're bold and sexually aggressive - the psychological shift involved in someone calling you by a different name can actually be used to your advantage.

Some Erotic Roles,

Erotic roles come in handy if you want to come up with a creative new scenario for your lover, or (for phone-sex professionals) if you get a lot of clients who want to hear made-up stories but who don't have particular scenarios in mind; practice your imagination with this short list and then relate the story to someone close to you as if you had a real encounter. Tell your story in vivid detail and don't tell is a fantasy, then ask the other person if its real or fantasy,

A business/client seduction.

Getting it on in an elevator.
Sex with a salesperson or repair person visiting your house.

Workplace (employer-employee or co-worker type scenario.

Doctor (or nurse) and patient.

Virgin seduction. You fucked a young male (legal age). "Young man, older woman" type scenario.

Getting it on the road with a trucker.

Getting out of a traffic violation by doing it in the back of a patrol car with an officer of the law.

Getting it on with a bartender at the end of his shift .

Doing it with a taxi cab driver.

Fucking your best girl friend's hubby.

Doing it with a bus driver at the end of the route.

Fucking the guy in the next tent at a camping trip.

Fucking a guy from out of town you picked up at a hotel lobby.

Doing it with a building security guard after you left a local bar.

Fucking a motel operator right after you fucked another guy at the same motel.

Doing it, with an older guy you met at a bar.

Fucking a white man (if you are black) or fucking a black guy (if you are white)

Fucking two guys you met at a party, both in the same room.

You are on a trip and short of cash and you fucked a guy for money.

Now try for the most daring situation you can think. It could be getting pregnant outside of marriage, doing it with hubby's best friend, his boss, etc.

Pole Dancing,

Nowadays many clubs allow their customers to take a crack at their exotic pole dancing abilities and talents. Most crowds will cheer, motivate, encourage and show their appreciation when any woman dares to entertain them this way even when the performance is quite amateurish. Practice your skills at home with a portable pole that can be setup in minutes in your living room. This is a great way to overcome shyness when you are ready, especially when your efforts will be rewarded with many compliments.

Here are 15 recommended top tips to spicing up your routine.

1 - Practice makes sexy
The more time you spend practicing, the more confident and comfortable you’ll become around the pole. Confidence is everything.

2 - See it before you spin it
Practice in front of a mirror to see how your moves look before you perform them.

3 - Enlist a friend
Practice with your friends for extra-flaunty fun and encouragement.

4 - Dance to the music
To begin with, choose music you know well. This helps with confidence and makes planning your routine easier.

5 - Dedicated follower of fashion
Look good and you’ll feel good. Wear something that makes you feel sexy, and try to keep it practical. Hot pants, short skirts and dresses that expose your boobs, bare legs and arms are ideal for feeling your way around the pole. Avoid outfits that are too tight, restrictive or hard to remove.

6 - Walk before you run
Go barefoot or wear running shoes for practice, then wear high heels until you feel confident enough.

7 - Flaunt your best assets
Perform moves that accentuate your hottest body parts. If you’ve got a big booty, then use it! Make the most of your legs, hair, hips and anything else you want to flaunt.

8 - Move away from the pole
Don’t focus entirely on the dance pole. Try to see the pole and the area around it as your personal sexy play zone. Use the floor for sexy struts and flaunty floor moves.

9 - Shimmy, shimmy
Exaggerate and emphasize the sensual way you move your body. Shake away, shimmy and wiggle thighs just that extra little bit for a sexier effect.

10 - Look into my eyes
If you’re dancing to seduce, try to maintain eye contact with your audience as much as possible.

11 - Let the games begin
Play with your audience. Tease them and toy with them. You’re in control; let them know it.

12 - All hands on deck
Use your hands to emphasize your body – run them over your breasts, trace the smooth contours of your legs or sexily ruffle your hair.

13 - Switch it up
Keep your routine lively by mixing it up as much as possible. Switch between slow moves, fast moves, pole moves and floor moves. Always keep them guessing!

14 - Flaunt your moves
Buy a good quality pole for home practice. An advanced dance pole, it supports any kind of move (including flips and inverts that you can use from beginner's moves to the expert pole dancing moves).

15 - Spin it
If you’re just looking to have a little flirty fun, keep practicing until you can slink, shimmy and pose around the pole to develop all kinds of sexy moves.
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VI. DEFINING SEX AND SEXUAL BEHAVIOR
Don't be shy or bashful, it pays to be daring.

Another consideration is the varied degrees of sexual attractions for different people (i.e.) what some people may find generally "attractive" in terms of beauty, may or may not be "sexually attractive" to others. For most people "sexual attractiveness" or "sexual turn on(s)" are defined in terms of fetishes (obsession, passion, compulsion are synonyms)

Fetishes are not the exclusive domain of paddles, domination or role playing; fetishes apply to all forms conducive to sexual arousal, turn on(s) and whatever you consider to be a strong and irresistible sexual attraction that enhances your senses and your imagination. Fetish means an object, bodily part or sexual activity "fixation" whose real or fantasized presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and for complete sexual expression.

Sex and fetishes go together. Some people find a beautiful face sexually attractive while others may find one or more physical attributes more enticing like, long legs, curvaceous body, big ass, big boobs or small boobs, full lips, a trim look, obesity, short people or taller, people with a disability or other special dispositions like, dominance and submissiveness, delicate manners or an abrupt conduct; perversity, morbidity, aberrations, mechanical devices, marital aids, others find abusive behavior sexually attractive.

Some women are attracted to male gays, or sissy acting, while some men are hopelessly attracted to bi-sexual women or butch acting; others are cuckolds. (men married to unfaithful women) Others have a sexual compulsion for the "Black Seed", some White males sexually enjoy their White wives getting pregnant by Black men. See a list of most fetishes in Chapter XI.

What defines sensuality, sexuality and the capacity to "attract" others in most cases is attitude, demeanor, aggressiveness, provocative behavior, boldness and character. Remember, I'm not talking about finding someone to whom you'll want to marry for life, I'm talking about finding someone for a "one night stand" or for a series of "affairs".

You don't have to look beyond sexual attractiveness and sexual compatibility for a series of sexual encounters, except that you also have to look for someone who won't create any complications or problems. Sexual attractiveness and problem-free are your two major considerations. Aside from the obvious (see Chapter VIII Fucking Safely) "Problem free" also includes "drug and disease free" and you should use condoms as a preventive measure.

Getting back to the subject of attitude and sexual behavior. For example, you see a beautiful, a "knock out", woman seating at a bar, nightclub or lounge and a man not too far from her trying to attract her attention, (good looking man too) but this woman remains unchanged and visibly uninterested in his advances. The man soon realizes that he is wasting his time and after a while, he starts focusing his interest on another woman.

On the other hand, the other woman, not-so-attractive, but ready to play by the rules of the game (i.e.) sexually attired, with the right touches that bring out her most prominent attributes and the least prominent as well. She immediately starts sending the right signals to this man, and with the right attitude for the moment; the right dose of seduction, provocative behavior, boldness, body and facial movements. This woman is striking a cord on a fetish common to most men (i.e.) she's being extremely flirtatious while displaying a very provocative demeanor.

This is done with a combination of deliberate and manipulative actions starting with intense looks into his eyes, lips, tongue, legs & feet movements, holding or sipping from a glass, holding and smoking a cigarette, hand movements and caresses over your legs and thighs, etc. The right dose of careful deceit like, briefly turning your eyes onto other males; this trick makes your male target feel surely insecure and more determined to gain your favors. By this time, his head is so clouded by your irresistible approach that he would be willing to do just about anything. You can rest assured that you'll get laid that night while the other "beautiful" woman will end up leaving alone or going to whatever "same" awaits her at home and no thrills for the night. Don't be shy or bashful, it pays to be daring.
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VII. THE RULES OF THE GAME
Catch people off-guard

Flirting action leading to a desire for a sexual encounter can be accomplished if you follow certain rules of safety. Approach other people when they least expect it and when you are in a safe place. For example, avoid people who are shopping or pretending to be shopping, walking the streets, riding public transportation or someone car cruising because you don't know who these people are, or their intentions. They could be out looking for trouble, they could be ex-convicts, rapists, thieves, or even murderers. However, when people are in their place of employment and performing their work, you know that the last thing in their minds is to do anything that could jeopardize their employment or their lives.

Further, working people are likely to lead a normal life; most likely, they have families, wives, friends, children, etc. You can approach these people with flirting action for a possible encounter right then and there or at a later time. Find out their names, where they live and phone numbers; at the very least, you already know where they work.

Look for people in a right setting

As I said before, at their place of employment, or any place where they go frequently and they are likely to be known by others, such as hotels during business trips, organizations, gyms or any other places where other people know their names, addresses, phone numbers and where they work. The key is to have as much information as possible on the people you'd like to approach, or know where you can get this information.

For example, if you have an encounter with a businessman staying at a hotel away from home, (avoid motels for these types of encounters, look for major hotels) most likely, you don't know any details of their personal information, however, you have a reliable source where you can go and get information on these people at any given time because hotels like Ramada, Hilton/Sheraton, etc. already have all the information, credit cards, etc. Another key point to remember is to not lose control in any situation, if you feel that you are losing control of yourself or of any given situation, leave at once, and avoid possible problems and complications. Never go to anyone's place of residence unless you know the person.
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VIII. FUCKING SAFELY
Catch people off-guard

Taxi Cab Drivers. Cab drivers are good targets for an encounter (note their taxi plate # and all details of their cab licenses including their names and cabby #, etc. normally posted by the glove compartment of the cab) A good approach is to establish a conversation and then look angry and say "I just found out that my SOB hubby had an affair with a friend of mine and I just want to do something to get back at him" Do a little chit-chat with this guy and then ask, Would you like to fuck me?

Many cab drivers won't resist this offer, It's like an offer they can't refuse. Cab drivers are touring the streets looking for fares and they are in their work environment, they are not likely to be out looking for trouble, they are working. You can take advantage of this opportunity for a delicious quick encounter in total anonymity ...

Hotels Encounters with business type individuals are fairly safe because you know that the hotels already have information on these people. Make sure that they are staying at the hotel in question and that they have a room registered under their names. That's fairly simple to find out when he shows the key for their room. You can fuck hotel or motel attendants and other personnel in fair safety.

Bartenders Most bartenders and bar owners will fuck anyone in their own establishment after working hours or in their offices during working hours. You can dance, enjoy yourself and have a fucking great time while entertaining yourself to the maximum and in a safe place full of people.

It is fairly safe to deal with some types

Motel & Hotel Employees, Vacation Spots & Resorts, Train (Amtrak) Attendants, You can fuck these people in their own hotels/motels or trains. Known (to you) married men are normally safe for obvious reasons. Superintendents, gas & electric meter readers, telephone and cable installer, repairmen, delivery guys; you can fuck in your own house or apartment in fair safety. Make these appointments from your home, not when you are out or at the store, somebody else could overhear the conversation and show up at your house or apartment at an earlier time. Neighbors won't notice or find anything out of the ordinary because is normal for these types to enter private homes.

Gym Instructors & Employees, Video & Adult Book Stores (Glory Holes) Bars, Nightclubs, Cocktail Lounges & Discotheques, Adult Theaters, Gas Station attendants. When in doubt, or for safety, fuck'm in the back seat of your car. Let the bartender know that you are going out with someone for a few minutes and make sure the bartender knows who the guy is. Fuck the bartender afterwards to show your gratitude.

Here is list of people you can fuck and places where you can go for your sexual escapades, (go with a friend or hubby, never alone)
PEOPLE

Adult Theaters. (get a companion, be careful)

Adult Video and Book Stores. (get a companion, be careful)

Airport personnel while waiting for your flight.

Amtrak train operators, while in transit to your destination

Bar, Lounge, Discotheque owners and employees in their work environment.

Building maintenance personnel

Building superintendents

Bus drivers at the end of their route.

Business owners and employees in their place of employment.

Business people staying at major hotels.

Cable repairmen and operators in your home or apartment

Call for estimates to drapery services, carpeting, construction, electrical, plumbers, insurance, stock brokerage, etc.

Clients of your company (this could get you a promotion if your get large orders or more business)

Construction workers at their lunch hour.

Delivery personnel (pizza, local restaurant, etc.)

Firemen. Fire Houses.

Gas meter readers in your home or apartment

Gas Station attendants.

Gym attendants while working or immediately after work.

Hotel Attendants

Married men known to you.

Motel Operators

Neighbors (make sure you know their profiles)

Other campers while camping.

People in prison (not hardened criminals) with marital rights. You can pass as a girl friend.

Phone company repairmen and operators in your home or apartment

Police officers on duty.

Resort personnel while on vacation.

Security Guards while performing their functions.

Swingers (if you belong to a swingers club as a single female)

Swingers Clubs (single females are allowed in without an escort)

Taxi drivers

Truck drivers on road trips. (don't do it alone, bring a companion)

Do not go with,

1. Co-workers (they could place your job in jeopardy)
2. Friends (I don't recommend, they'll gossip or create trouble for you if they find themselves "in love" with you.
3. Friends of Friends (I don't recommend for the above reasons)
4. Club, Bar, Lounge, Nightclubs bouncers; they are hired as such precisely because of their roughness and most are not closely connected to their employers.
5. Garbage Collectors working for -private- garbage collection companies. (turnover is very high and new employees are getting hired all the time. Some are hardened criminals, hired from prisons' work programs)

Risqué Escapades. For these types of encounters you should always bring a companion and a male companion for adult bookstores, adult theaters, bondage and discipline B&D, sado-masochism S&M, cruising areas, extreme fetishes, gangbangs, jerk-offs, orgies, parks & trails, private glory holes, rest areas, road cruising, truckers, sex parties, (not organized by swingers or clubs) video arcades and voyeur/exhibitionism.

You could have a lot of fun and satisfy your needs for extreme sex, and play it safe by using common sense, but be aware that you'll be fucking total strangers with no background information on them. (never go alone)

PLACES

Adult Bookstores

Adult Theaters

Backseat of a Car

Bar/Lounges

Bathhouses

Bondage & Discipline B&D

Cruising Areas

Erotic Camping and Hiking

Gangbangs etc.

Groups

Gyms

Hotels / Motels

Hotsprings

Jerk-Off's

Nude Beaches

Orgies

Parking Lots

Parks & Trails

Places of Extreme Fetishes

Private Glory Holes

Private Parties

Rest areas

Road Cruising/Truckers

Roadside Fucking

Sado-Masochism S&M

Saunas

Sex Clubs

Sex Parties

Theatres

Video Arcades

Voyeur/Exhibitionism

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IX. THE DANGER ZONE
Be aware of the following,

Unknowns

Be aware of the following guidelines; while I hate profiling or stereotyping people, this is a necessary evil for this purpose because we are talking about keeping people safe (mostly women), always keep in mind the following,

Serial killers. By national statistics most serial killers are white and most look as nice and as decent as any of your friends or family members. They also look, is some cases, very distinguished and very businesslike. In other cases, they look very trashy; others are loners and sociopaths (individuals with a deeply ingrained hatred for other ethnic groups like, jews, blacks, hispanics, catholics, gays, etc.) or psychopaths (individuals with profound mental problems) Any of them, are very difficult to detect in a short span of time. In general, avoid people with a marked obsession of some sort or who keep talking about the same things over and over again, many times repeating themselves.

Rapists. They come in all sizes, shapes or forms. white, blacks, hispanics, etc. But if you follow the rules and guidelines in the previous chapter for knowing your "fuck for the night", this will provide a degree of safety. Most rapists by national statistics are people known to their victims, co-workers, family members, friends, acquaintances, friends of your friends, etc.

People known or unknown to you could also be rapists. You should provide a good measure of safety for yourself like, taking taxi cabs to move around, don't walk alone in the middle of the night, don't go into alleys, vacant lots, or poorly lighted places, don't take dangerous shortcuts, stay indoors or places with other people around you. Have someone you trust drive you around and pick you up when you are done for the night. If you have to walk any distance, go out with a friend. Carry mace, pepper spray, a little flashlight and a whistle in your purse. Avoid neighborhoods not familiar to you. If you are cut in an unfamiliar neighborhood, avoid one-way streets, stay on two-way streets where you are able to make a quick U-turn and drive the other way, normally two-way streets have more traffic and better illumination.

Whites. They are normally looking to fuck white, black or hispanic women and then they'll be on their way. In general, they are not looking to confront problems (unless they are hardened criminals). Stick to business people who are mostly preoccupied with their families and their jobs and you are in secured, public places. Avoid, trashy types.

Blacks. In general, they are not looking to confront problems (unless they are hardened criminals) They are normally looking to fuck white, black or hispanic women and then they'll be on their way. Some women enjoy sex with Mandingo types, Go to Mandingo sex clubs.

Hispanics. In general, they are not looking for trouble. (unless they are hardened criminals) Quite a few of them, especially, Colombians, Dominicans and South American types, etc. some are illegal aliens and would normally avoid getting involved in any problems that could get them deported. Cubans are cocky, but mostly harmless if you keep them in line (unless they are hardened criminals).

Other types Other types, when you feel comfortable and safe with the type individual or nationality that you are dealing with. Last, but not least, are the intense, abrasive types of any ethnicity or nationality that won't leave you alone even after you have sent the right signals for him to go away or to scram, but the SOB just remains there like as a nuisance or like, a mad bee searching for honey. This is the time to seek the help of the club bouncer or someone in charge with the power to ask the little bastard to leave you alone. Stay away from these types of individuals. When this happens its better to ask another person to accompany you to your car when you are ready to leave. The SOB could be outside the joint waiting for you to come out.

Dangerous (risky) Places

For all daring and more risqué escapades, never go out alone, go with your hubby or someone you can fully trust. Go out with someone who knows how to stay out of trouble and to keep things safe.

IX-a. How to Spot Borderline Criminals. Personality Disorders.

It's difficult to know what types are dangerous criminals, borderline criminals (people that are prone to criminal acts if given a chance). Nothing is foolproof, but you should follow these general rules. Stay away from these types,

1. Men who won't accept other people's opinions and ideas. Stubbornness.
2. Men who keep talking about themselves with no end in sight. Narcissism.
3. Men who like to pry into the most intimate details of your personal life, other than trivial things like, name, type of work, your likes and dislikes, etc. Snooping.

Warning signs (a through g).

4. a) Men with a history of unstable relationships.
5. b) Pushy men who no matter what you say, they keep trying to push their way. They don't like, or accept, the word "NO"
6. c) Men who are intensely argumentative.
7. d) Men who question to the last detail anything you say.
8. e) Men who criticize others incessantly, especially other ethnic groups.
9. f) Men who like to talk about their physical strength and keep talking about violent acts performed by them or by others. Expressing fantasies of violence or past violence.
10.g) Men who are capable of showing unwarranted (for no apparent reason) intense anger or talk about their own anger.

Younger types are easier to detect. The above traits lessen with age; to a lesser extent some older people could be more deceiving due to their experience.

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X. THE BUSINESS ASPECT
Prostitution is Illegal.

Prostitution is illegal Current laws may carry jail sentences for selling sex or buying sexual services. You can give it away for free, but you can't sell it. You can fuck in front of a camera (Playboy, Spice Channels, etc., Porno Films and Videos) and get paid for it, but you can't collect from the actual fuckee whom you are fucking. Therefore, everything being said here is fiction and for your entertainment and amusement only. If you read this, you are advised to never engage in prostitution for profit at any level.

This is for information and educational purposes only and not to be construed as legal advise or as an endorsement for commercial sex, sex for profit or of prostitution as a business or as a lifestyle. This is for slutty women, slut wives, girlfriends, single females who enjoy the thrills of the swinging lifestyle. This section provides women with information which is geared to enhance their experience, to gain an edge by maintaining control, safety and to obtain information. Knowing what to do, how to do it, avoiding problems, mistakes and pitfalls is key to slutty women who are normally seeking extreme erotic fun and unlimited sexual excitement as a way of life, a wild time on weekends or a few times a year.

Click here for our section ~Slutty Women's Information Network~ for lots of information on this topic. Read the book "NANCY CHAN; DIARY OF A MANHATTAN CALL GIRL" (53 chapters); the book is a work of "fiction" an excellent literary work electronically (Internet) published by "Salon.com" you'll find a link to the book at BAR-LOOSE's SLUTTY WOMEN INFORMATION NETWORK.
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XI. FETISHES
Fetishes go from the mild to the bizarre

Fetishes include, cigar, pipe & cigarette smoking, spanking, leather, latex, liquid latex, body painting, domination & submission (B & D - bondage & discipline) and switchers, witches & warlords, gestapo, verbal abuse, humiliation, interracial sex, golden showers, brown showers, ass manipulation through enemas, fisting and toys, sexual, devices (toys or marital aids), vibrators, necrology, vampirism, sadism & masochism (S & M), worshipping (Masters & Mistresses), medieval, chains & ropes, whips, glory holes (cock sucking through holes in Adult Book & Video Stores) electric stimulus, bleeding, infantilism, role playing, pain & torture, nipple torture or enlargement, large breasts devotion, large or pumped up penises, physical or psychological manipulation, servants/maids, feet, spiked/high heels, boots, lingerie, garters, corsets, uniforms, medical instruments & utensils, kitchen utensils, bestiality (animals), fruits & vegetables (cucumbers, bananas, plantains) gangbangs, nymphs, hermaphrodites, forceful sex, wrestling men & women, food, voyeurism, exhibitionism, hot wax (candles), oxygen (air depredation), dog training, pony training, obedience, strap-on fucking, AC/DC double penetration, depravation, perversion, Greek culture (ass fucking), body piercing, heavy body tattooing, group masturbation, large women, big men/women with little people, older women, older men, lolitas, road sex/flashing, public flashing, cross-dressing (transvestites), mud baths, group sex, wife/husband swapping, wife lending, threesomes, swinging, orgies, mandingo fucking, bar/lounge flirting/pick-up, videotaping, phone/Internet sex, erotic e-mails.

Fetishes go from the mild to the bizarre, and anything in between. Consent, commitment and limitations are built into a systematic approach with most partners and is normal to have a specific "word" as a warning in order to maintain a level of safety and protection against going "too far". Normally, enthusiasts push extremes up to their point of tolerance. The word could be "Stop" or "Mercy" or whatever other word has been decided upon between two or more people. Once the word is mentioned, the session must come to an end and the person under such pressures should be released at once. Trust is an important component.
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XII. GENERAL INFORMATION
Fetishes go from the mild to the bizarre

A word of wisdom for men

If you are a man reading this book, you should know that women look for impeccable dressed men in business suits and tie. If you are well dressed, you have a better chance of getting your woman for the night than any other more attractive "hunk" that is poorly attired. When you walk into a bar, club or lounge, make eye contact at several times with at least six women, one them is bound to pay attention to you if you persevere long enough.

One question; What nationality of women are more likely to go to bed with a stranger on the first night out? Guess! Now look at the answer within the suggested "List of Pendants" just below (its the first name) and if you still don't know the country, this is hint; Its a continent all by itself.

List of Pendants (Ice breakers...conversation starters)

Ausie not my name, but a place. And its has a clear meaning for tonight, if you know the answer.
Blackie..... why do you think? It has a meaning
Blacky..... why do you think? it has a meaning
Blondie..... doesn't it show? look again
Blondy..... doesn't it show? look again
Boobs..... use your visual imagination
Brandi..... make me a drink offer I can't refuse
Brandy..... make me a drink offer I can't refuse
Bunny..... look in the right places
Candie..... for your senses
Candy..... for your senses
Cat Girlm..... I'm open to suggestions, what do you prefer, grrrrrrrr, or meow
Crystal..... I think its clear, think again.
Dance Queen..... anytime you say where and when
Dazzler..... tell me what dazzles and I'll show you when
Delight..... you'll find out...if you are lucky
Diva..... its a big name, it takes one to be one.
Divine..... if you don't know, I won't tell you
Dolly..... just look at me and tell me
Ebony..... down to my core...hardcore that is
Erotik..... tell me what you are thinking
Erotika..... tell me what you are thinking
Exotik..... you wish to find out
Exotika..... you wish to find out
Fire..... aren't you afraid of getting burned?
For Your Eyes Only..... only for the right tool
Foxy..... tell me more
Gloria..... my name is not Gloria, but use your vivid imagination
Glory..... my name is not Glory, but use your vivid imagination
Golden..... I'm golden all right..... do you like showers?
Heaven..... use your imagination
Honey..... this is my juice
Hot Lips..... for kissing?..... maybe
Hotsy..... you could get burned
Infinity..... I'm never ending, can you guess?
Lace..... you mean, you don't know
Lover..... do the right thing and find out.
Lover Girl..... yes, I am
Lusty..... yes, I am, how about you?
Meow..... I'm meow, are you grrrrrrrr?
Ms..... all woman, guess my status
Missy..... very, very innocent when I left, but fill in the blank
Misty..... how is it when its very, very Misty? think and tell me
Nubian..... there is an invisible second word. can you guess?
Passion..... yes, I am, not much imagination is needed here
Peaches..... think of a ripened peach (sweet and juicy)
Petals..... Petals have thorns, sometimes
Private..... OK, can you earn it?
Purrfect..... what purr-fect, that's also perfect but not perfect.
Pussycat..... yes and no, you tell me
Red Hot..... my hair is not red, so think for yourself
Satin..... soft and silky, fill in the blanks
Sexy..... that's so obvious, but tell me what you think
Sexy Girl..... that's so obvious, but tell me what you think
Show Girl..... maybe, but, are you "show & tell"?
Silky..... you've already felt it, guess now
Sky High..... how do you do it?
Snowy..... why do you think I'm very pure?
Sparks..... close your eyes, what do you see?
Star..... yes, up in the sky
Sweet..... try hard and maybe you'll find out
Sweets..... try hard and maybe you'll find out
Sweety..... try hard and maybe you'll find out
Thrills..... well, I know I am, do tell me about thrills
Tiffany..... whatever you're thinking, that's the right thing, tell me more
Tigress..... fur or claws, what's your pleasure?
Velvet..... tell me why.
Vixen..... is the Pope Jewish?
Wild..... the jungle is my domain

Or a combination of words, avoid Princess, this sends a strong indication that you are conceited and/or a high maintenance girl, definitely the wrong message.

List of sexy stage names for women

Always carry your name and phone number written on a piece of paper, or better yet have a personal printed card with your name, phone number and your favorite sexy remark, to pass out to new acquaintances. (choose a name that is fairly short, sexy and easy to remember) .

Alex, Alexa, Alexandra, Alexis, Alisha, Allie, Ally, Alize, Amanda, Amber, Anabell, Angelica, Angie, Annie, April, Arial, Ariana, Ashley, Audrie, Avalon, Barbie, Becky, Belle, Blair, Bobbie, Brittany, Brook, Candice, Candie, Carole, Cathleen, Candy, Chanelle, Cherie, Cherisse, Cherry, Cheryl, Chris, Christa, Christina, Clarissa, Cynthia, Daisy, Dania, Daniela, Danielle, Dawn, Darlene, Denise, Desiree, Diane, Dixie, Donna, Elaine, Erika, Fran, Frannie, Gail, Georgia, Gerri, Gina, Gloria, Glory, Goldie, Hanna, Heather, Harriet, Holly, Honey, Ilene, Ingrid, Irene, Jackie, Jaclyn, Janice, Jennifer, Jenny, Jessica, Jessie, Joanna, Jocie, Jolly, Joy, Julie, Joyce, Juliet, Julietta, Karinna, Karla, Kate, Kathy, Kelly, Kern, Kim, Kitty, Lana, Lane, Latisha, Laurie, Leslie, Lexi, Linda, Lisa, Lissette, Lissie, Liza, Loren, Lori, Lorna, Mae, Maggie, Maria, Marie, Marilyn, Marissa, Maritza, Maya, Melonie, Michelle, Mikka, Mireya, Missy, Misty, Mona, Monica, Myrka, Myrna, Nanette, Natalie, Natalie, Natasha, Nicole, Nikki, Nilsa, Pam, Paloma, Rachel, Raquelle, Rave, Renee, Rita, Robin, Roxanna, Roxy, Ruby, Sadie, Sandra, Sandy, Shantelle, Sarah, Sasha, Sharon, Sherrie, Sherry, Shirley, Silver, Sue, Susan, Suzanne, Suzzie, Tahlia, Tammara, Tammy, Tanya, Terri, Tessi,Tiffany, Tina, Toni, Trisha, Valerie, Vanessa, Venus, Vera, Veronica, Vickie, Vicky, Victoria, Wendy, Yvonne, Yalissa, Yesenia, Yoli, Yolanda, Yauri.

The Basics Put simply, the single most effective thing you can do to stay healthy when swinging is to use latex condoms for intercourse; this practice is now extremely common in the swinging community, and is often expected. All condoms are not made alike; people, especially men should experiment with different brands until they find the one they like best When you put on a condom, pinch its tip as you unroll it (all the way down!) to prevent an air bubble from forming in the reservoir tip.

For intercourse, you should then put some water-based lube (such as KY or Astroglide) on the outside of the condom for comfort, mutual pleasure, and to keep the condom from tearing during sex. It should be obvious that a new condom needs to be put-on for each new partner. If you're going to switch from anal intercourse to vaginal intercourse, you should also put on a new condom (doing otherwise can cause vaginal infections - similarly, you shouldn't put any fingers that used to be in the anus or in a vagina without first washing your hands with hot water and anti-bacterial soap). Some men find that more sensation is transmitted to them if they put a drop of water-based lube on the tip of their condom before putting it on.

Oral Sex Many swingers dismiss any concerns because the risk of transmission via this route is apparently low, and because HIV is not widespread in the swingers community. Ultimately, it is up to each of us to set our personal standards for risk. You can make things safer for yourself by not having flossed your teeth immediately before sex (which can make the gums less able to keep pathogens out of the bloodstream), by not letting men come in your mouth, by not performing cunnilingus on a woman while she is menstruating.

Hands If you've had your fingers in someone's vagina or ass, or had someone come on your hands, it's a good idea to wash your hands with hot water and anti-bacterial soap (use diluted peroxide after washing if you use regular soap) before touching your eyes or genitals (or anybody else's).

Safe Sex Kits

Carry your safe-sex supplies, your small bottle of water-based lube a little bottle with peroxide is excellent anti-bacterial for cleansing your mouth, pieces of paper to write your name and phone number on, and anything else you commonly need. Although safe-sex supplies are provided at some parties, it's still nice to know that you have with you the supplies and brands you prefer. Also, having what you need with you at all times will make it much easier for you to maintain whatever safe-sex standards you have chosen.

Vaccinations You may be interested in knowing that a permanent vaccine is available for hepatitis B. If you're planning on spending a lot of time in the swinging community (or any other lifestyle potentially involving lots of sex with different people), it might be worth your time to get this vaccination.

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XIII. Spanish Words and Phrases

Apriétame las tetas (Squeeze my tits),
Cógeme las tetas (Grab my tits),
Cógeme el bollo (Grab my pussy),
Cómete mi hierba mojada (Eat my wet bush),
Cómete mis pendejos (Eat my bush),
Dame tu pinga (Gimme' your dick),
Déjame tranquila (Leave me alone),
Dick, (Cock) words are; pinga, bicho, los huevos, tolete, morronga.
Eres un Comudo (Your wife sleeps around),
Eres un Tarrúo, (your wife sleeps around),
Eres un Venao (Your wife sleeps around),
Fuck (Fucking) words are; singar, síngame, chichar, polvo,
Hechame tu leche en la boca (Cum in my mouth),
Hechame un polvo (Fuck me),
Quiero chichar (I'wanna fuck),
Quiero mamarte el tolete (I want to suck your cock),
Quiero mamarte la pinga (I want to suck your dick);'
Quiero que le singues el culo a un maricón (I want to see you fucking a faggot).
Quiero que mames un bicho grande (I want you to see you sucking a big cock),
Quiero que me la metas por el culo (Fuck my ass),
Quiero que se la metas a otro macho (I want you to fuck another man's ass);,
Quiero que te metas una pinga en el culo (I want to see a cock in your ass),
Quiero que tu mames una pinga (I want to see you sucking dick:),
Quiero tu leche (I want your cum),
Quiero tu leche en el culo (Cum in my ass),
Maricón (Faggot),
Me gusta tu pinga (I love your dick),
Me gusta tu morronga (I like your rod),
Me gusta tu tolete (I love your cock),
Me gusta la pinga grande y dura (I love a big, hard cock)
Me gusta tu pinga para mamar y metermela (I love to suck and fuck your cock)
Muérdeme los pesones (Bite my nipples),
Pussy (Cunt) words are; bolIo, papaya, chicha.
Singame ahora (Fuck me now),
Singame la papaya (Fuck my pussy),
Soy puta de barras, Papi (Baby, I'm a bar slut),
Soy una pervertida, degenerada puta tortillera (I'm a perverted, degenerate, pussy eating lesbian),
Soy una puta mala (I'm a bad bitch),
Tengo el bollo caliente y mojado (My pussy is hot and wet),
Tengo la papaya empapada en leche (My pussy is dripping with cum),
Tu eres un mamador (Cocksucker),
Tu mamas pingas (Cock sucker),
Tu mujer te pone los cuemos (Your wife sleeps around),
Tu tolete es delicioso (Your cock is delicious),:
Vete al carajo (go to 'hell),
Voy a llamar a la policia (I'm calling the police),

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XIV. Practice Exercise
Test Yourself

a. You are asked to relate a number of (20) fantasies, to tell the story in vivid detail and don't tell your listener that its all a fantasy. Your listener then has to determine if the stories you tell are real stories or fantasies. If you told the stories with expertise and imagination and they were guessed by your listener as "real" you can assign yourself 5 points for each "real" guess and you lose your 5 points for each "fantasy" guess.

b. Next you have to relate a very daring story or perhaps a long held secret of your past (which later you could claim its a fantasy). Try for the most daring situation you can think or do something "bold, daring and extreme" Your story could be getting pregnant outside of marriage (whether true or not), and getting an abortion behind hubby's back, doing it with hubby's best friend, his boss, etc. Your "bold, daring and extreme" act could be doing something you've never done with your hubby, boy friend or life partner, a "slutty" and not very nice thing to do, or doing something that would make them say "You Fucking Slut, how did you do that"

If your listener guessed it a fantasy and it is a fantasy you'll need to try again at another time and try to make it more real. Take away 30 points from the points you have already earned from the other 20 fantasies.

If your listener guessed it a fantasy when you told a real story based on a long held secret of yours (which is a true occurrence) you then need to take away 30 points and try again at another time.

If your listener guessed it real when you told a fantasy or real story based on a long held secret of yours (which is a true occurrence) you earn 30 points.

c. Skip "b. above" if you just go out and dare do something "bold, daring and extreme" which can be verified by your listener; you then earn 50 points without any guesses.

If you can pass this test you are then ready to handle most men on your own terms and you are a true "slut" ready for fun, pleasure and escapades. You can earn a maximum of 150 points with this exercise. (use a separate piece of white paper for your ideas)

Passing grade for this exercise is 90 points.

LIST OF FANTASIES
A business/client seduction.

Getting it on in an elevator.
Sex with a salesperson or repair person visiting your house.

Workplace (employer-employee or co-worker type scenario.

Doctor (or nurse) and patient.

Virgin seduction. You fucked a young male (legal age). "Young man, older woman" type scenario.

Getting it on the road with a trucker.

Getting out of a traffic violation by doing it in the back of a patrol car with an officer of the law.

Getting it on with a bartender at the end of his shift .

Doing it with a taxi cab driver.

Fucking your best girl friend's hubby.

Doing it with a bus driver at the end of his shift.

Fucking the guy in the next tent at a camping trip.

Fucking a guy from out of town you picked up at a hotel lobby.

Doing it with a building security guard after you left a local bar.

Fucking a motel operator right after you fucked another guy at the same motel.

Doing it, with an older guy you met at a bar.

Fucking a white man (if you are black) or fucking a black guy (if you are white)

Fucking two guys you met at a party, both in the same room.

You are on a trip and short of cash and you fucked a guy for money.

Now try for the most daring situation you can think. It could be getting pregnant outside of marriage, doing it with hubby's best friend, his boss, etc.
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Appendix I. A Guide For Hot Mature Ladies: Defining Cougars.

Married, Single, Bachelorette, Divorced, Widow, Retired, Wealthy or Working class, Cougars are on the Prowl everywhere. When a Cougar challenges a young cub to tequila shots, he figures, “I’m gonna drink this tiny little cougar slut under the table”. Little does he know that Cougars hit the happy hours every night while on the prowl for hard young cocks and that her tolerence for booze is like her tolerence for getting fucked and sucking cum, she can’t get enough. After 5 or 6 shots the young cub is asking for "mercy" and the Cougar decides that this is the perfect opportunity to pounce on his cock.

Topics,

- Defining Cougars
- Cougars' Playground
- Diet & Feeding Habits
- Hunting Grounds
- Mating Habits
- Cougar Habitat
- Social Structure

Defining Cougars.

When you hear the word "cougar" on any “outdoors” channel, it means something entirely different than it means on the lifestyle circuit. One usage means big cat and the other is a hot older woman who enjoys the company of younger men.

Cougars, in their sexual prime, are hitting the prime time. It's difficult to define a Cougar in terms of age. Let us just say that if you are an older woman (whatever age) seeking a younger male cub, you are a Cougar.

The Cougar.

Sure, everyone knows about some of the famous Hollywood cougars, but how do you sport your Cougar image in the wild without going to the Zoo? Or maybe you want to try new hunting grounds.

Cougars' Playground, Here Your Roar

Cougars are confident, older women with the stereotypes of being successful and sexy. Not necessarily sugar mamas, they typically frequent nicer establishments whether it's food, drink or shops.

Cougars In The Wild: The Cougar Diet & Feeding Habits

The cougar's diet consists of two main staples: fine food and younger men. After having lived a little longer and being pretty prosperous, you have the money to spend on the finer things in life.

Explore a restaurant that has a $$$$ after its name in the guide books. Find those restaurants in any city if you happen to travel as Cougar in your quest for younger guys.

For this reason, you'll find yourself dining at hip and/or high-end establishments where you can brandish your gold cards while paying for caviar and lobster. Of course, you'll often be accompanied by an attractive younger man.

In order to get your prey, you'll have to skip the tempting Subway $5 foot-long promotion and as tempting as you might be to pepper in some fun at Chili's; a cougar set her sights higher.

Hunting Grounds.

Specific Cougar Spots (sample spots, found in most cities)

One of the best sites on cougariana territory, in Corona del Mar (California) is the gold standard for cougar prowlings, but a warning from the site: many of the cougs have more baggage than United Airlines... and they're happy to check it with a younger guy.

If you're further north in San Francisco Balboa Cafe in San Francisco is renowned as a cougar den and cougar hunters in NYC need to check out Buddha Bar in the Meatpacking District, South Fin Grill on Staten Island and Del Frisco's Steakhouse.

Other Places for Cougars:

- Mon Ami Gabi (Vegas)
- Blue Martini (Vegas)
- Pops for Champagne (Chicago)
- The Clubhouse (Chicago) - Rosewood Mansion on Turtle Creek (Dallas)
- Di Paolo (Atlanta)
- Daniel's Broiler (Seattle)
- High priced Nightclubs (anywhere)

A cougar knows that quality men are more abundant at higher-end locales. The hunt will focus in on these targets.

While some Hollywood actresses are known Cougars and married to husband 15 or more years their junior they never stop being quintessential cougars, always on the prowl.

Sticking to VIP hot spots like places where you might run into some famous and prominent people is a good start for a cougar seeking her prey.

The cougar will attract her prey in many different ways. The most common method involves a slinky outfit and a seductive dance often fueled by exotic cocktails.

Unattached cougars like to dance in prides, so when you hit the club, check the VIP lounge or the dance floor for a group of 'em.

Cougar Hunter has a few tips on approaching the cougar, including a favorite pick-up line: "Fat penguin (pause) I just wanted to say something that would break the ice."

Cougar Hunting Grounds Near You

If you're living in SoCal 'Cougar Country, Citysearch has quick guide for cougar spots. In New York, Stone Rose at the Time Warner Center and the Cabanas at the Maritime Hotel are your best bets.

Continue the search at SET in Miami Beach, Pangaea in Austin or Zola in DC or PURE in Vegas.

The Cougar Mating Habits

Once the predator cougar has caught her prey, she will treat him to many of the finer things that she herself has been enjoying.

Mating habits for human cougars differ from their feline namesakes. While feline cougars mate in order to procreate, this isn't a priority for the human cougar.

Some cougars have already had children. In fact, she probably has a child that is the same age as one or many of her victims.

Mating habits for the cougars include showing off the catch. As such, the cougar will take her arm candy to VIP events, trendy date spots and tony boutiques.

Events like New York's Fashion Week (or any of the fashion weeks), charity galas, art openings and movie premieres are ripe opportunities to the cougar mating habits.

Cougar Shopping Hotspots

- Fifth Avenue (NYC)
- Robertson Boulevard (LA)
- Magnificent Mile (Chicago)
- Highland Park Village (Dallas)
- Bal Harbour (Miami)
- Forum Shops at Caesars (Vegas)

The Cougar Habitat

When the cougar retreats to her own habitat, she needs pampering and relaxation. She may just head to her favorite spa, salon or she may escape to an exotic location.

However she chooses to relax, she does so with pizazz and perhaps the company of her younger paramour, known as a cub.

They may gather pampering items from luxury home stores like Williams-Sonoma Home or Horchow to keep their habitat in top relaxation mode.

Some beauty palaces to spot a relaxing cougar:

- Canyon Ranch (Vegas)
- Spa Radiance (San Francisco)
- Agua Bathhouse Spa (Miami Beach)
- Ole Henriksen Face/Body (LA)
- Cornelia Day Resort (NYC)
- Exhale (Chicago)

The Cougar Social Structure

A group of cougars is called a pride and socialization is important. Real-life cougar Kim Cattrall knows that a tight knit group of girl friends can make the sometimes solitary life of a cougar more enriching.

A cougar tends to spend time only with women who can relate to her and to her favorite pastimes and pusuits. Whether older or younger than she herself, she often meets these women over her favorite meal: brunch. The meal is generally accompanied by mimosas and discussion about sex.

Here are some favorite brunch spots around the country where you may be able to spot a pride of cougars socializing:

- Balthazar (NYC)
- Sarabeth's (NYC)
- Jane's (Chicago)
- Tabard Inn (DC)
- Continental Midtown (Philly)
- BLD (LA)

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Appendix II. Another type of Cougars: A Guide For All Hot Mature Ladies seeking younger cubs.

This type of Cougar requires different sexual and seduction savvy than Cougars with $$$$ to spread around. It requires a lot of "do it yourself experience, expertise and techniques" to look the part and to attract the younger male crowd that seek, like and enjoy the "older woman" type. The type of younger males (cubs) that look for sexual gratification and a better understading from what older and more experienced women have to offer, perhaps a better understanding of the cub's special sexual needs/fetishes. It's very possible that the cub's only need/fetish is an attraction for older women. Other special sexual needs may include submission, a need for a strong woman, a woman who understands male bi-sexuality and/or some other specific fetish needing fulfillment.

Topics,

- Defining Mature Cougars
- Cougars' on the Prowl
- Cougars' Playground
- Mating Habits
- Social Structure

Defining the mature Cougar,

This type of older Cougar could be fairly defined as a forty something and older (whatever age) seeking a much younger cub, say, 20 or more years her junior. Strong willed women with character, experience and strong sexual desires. Like all cougars, the most common method involves a slinky outfit and a seductive dance often fueled by cocktails to strong drinks. This type of Cougar is most always alone, sitting at the bar or at a table near the bar. When you hit the club, check for unattached males normally roaming the dance floor, corners or near the bar. Be aggressive with your looks and stares.

Stay on the prowl for male cubs,

Hit on gentle souls, unaggressive, shy types. Stare directly and firmly, let the cubs know that you are on the prowl and seeking their company. Offer a seductive line and a drink. Be conversational, direct and approachable. Physically approaching your prey is a must. Start conversing about enjoying the company of sensitive men. Talk in terms of despising other women seeking men for fashion and wealth. Let him know that you recognize and appreciate him for who he is. This is a time when patronizing could go a long way. Compliment his choice of clothing, and his demeanor. Find out about your prey in terms of his likes and dislikes. Show your manipulative skills, all women perform manipulations for different reasons in one way or another. Your main reason is to get your young prey for your own sexual exploits and gratification.

Allow him to discover the possibilities of what an experienced older woman has to offer, but you are guiding his thoughts every step of the way. Let him "discover" and realize that you represent a learning experience into a new realm of knowledge and opportunity. Advance the benefits of your maturity. Let him know that you have seen and done almost everything under the sun and you are offering an open mindedness unlike no other he's ever experienced with anyone alse. You will allow him to express himself in any way he desires, but subtly set your limits at a later time.

At this point, get a little physical touching his hands, but don't talk about sex just yet. Wait until he develops the courage to reciprocate with a touch. It means he's getting confortable with your open talk, physical closeness, your presence and your aggressivenes. This is your signal to start talking more openly about sex. Offer a hint for a close encounter. Let him know that you are discreet and that you require discretion.

Your playground

You playground should be carefully chosen. Don't go to bars / lounges that are frequented by a younger crowd where competition from younger chicks is high, instead find spots where the crowd is mixed, in their 30s and up, and the occasional 20 something in the mix. This will ensure that the younger male types are at ease and enjoy older groups.

Mating Habits

Once the predator cougar has caught her prey, she seductively finds what her prey likes and enjoys, she will treat him to enhanced sexual experiences and slowly, but surely introduces the cub to the diversity of sexual lifestyles that the cougar likes and enjoys.

Social Structure

The social structure for this type of cougar is entirely different. While she normally has a small network of other older cougars that she uses to chat, discuss sexual practices, compare notes and for the purpose of increasing her prowling skills and enhanced sexual practices. This cougar plays by herself, alone and keeps all competition away. Small get togethers with another or more cougars are normal for the above mentioned purposes.

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